There's a website called "My Parents Were Awesome." No words, only pictures. People send in photos of their parents, separately or together, when they were young. The photos are posted with only the subjects' first names. The cumulative poignancy is amazing and terribly moving. Every parent could be a movie star or a teen idol or a heartbreaker, or the smartest or most popular kid on the block. Parents are dating and in love, courting even. They are people, not parents. If one of my sons were to send in a picture I'd like them to send the one of their father at 17 or 18--long wavy hair, jeans--sitting alone on the low porch of an old abandoned farmhouse, his feet sunk into the overgrown field of a lawn.